Being the boss of your life takes a lot ownership and stepping up to. This is something I feel like I’m personally working on every single day. We all have goals we want to achieve but they take a certain level of discipline in forcing yourself to get up, and do the things you really wish to put off instead. Like why workout when you could just binge on Stranger Things instead?
UHM, BECAUSE YOUR FUTURE DEPENDS ON IT.
Like literally though… Your life actually depends on it, and I’ll tell you why in a bit.
As someone who’s always trying to juggle university, a blog and time for personal growth, I was super inspired by Jenn Im after she gave such a heartfelt, inspirational talk on ‘Being Your Own Boss’. Her philosophy really aligned with my own and I had to share the 5 Pillars she spoke about, with a bit of my own personal thoughts on how to achieve success.
Success isn’t just a one-way road (unfortunately for us procrastinators), oh no my friends. Success is the path that you were taught to stay off of because it is too ‘unrealistic’. Do you recall ever telling someone a master plan of success you might have had planned out in your head, and getting a response to the affect of… “That’s not possible” or “I don’t think that suits you very much” or the one we all live to fear, “HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA – YOU!?!?!”
As you can see, you’ve pretty much been conditioned your entire life to be as average as the idiots telling you that you can’t do it, and that’s putting it kindly. The truth is, you are more than that and you don’t need me or anyone to tell you this. If you’re looking for answers, they’re already within you. You know where you need to go and how to do it. You are also exactly where you need to be in order to get to where you need go, you have the resources you need, the support, the love, the discipline, the motivation and the willpower to get shit done. You have everything you need in this moment to achieve your goal and here and now.
The 5 Pillars of Success || Be Your Own Boss
Success starts with succeeding in figuring out yourself first. The reason people skip this step so often is because it’s not as easy as it sounds. It brings up a lot of confrontation with yourself and that isn’t always pretty. This helps you to reflect on your mistakes so that you can also avoid repeating them in future situations and do better instead. Self-reflection helps you to realise your strengths and weaknesses. These simple things are a necessary part of succeeding in life.
2. Manage Your Mind
When it comes to managing your mind, there’s a lot of nasty things flowing around in there that overwhelms us. When our minds are overflowing with to-do lists and time constraints, stress and anxiety becomes almost inevitable. I’ve had many days where I’ve spent so much time stressing on things I have to do, that end up getting absolutely nothing done in a day. This is where Jenn says that planning ahead, creating rules and actually sticking to them comes in handy. A lot of the time your productivity relies on your willpower and how efficient you are with your time.
3. Invest in Yourself
Jenn says that one of her aims is to normalize therapy. I thought that this was one of the best points she brought up since we all need it, even a therapist needs therapy! She talks mainly about how you are your most important asset and I want to take it a step further by also saying that your time is also your most valuable asset. When you take the time each day to pour into yourself, you are guaranteed to flourish and that is why you should spend your time wisely by absorbing motivational and inspirational content daily and reading or listening to things that will inspire and improve you and help you to reach you to achieve success.
4. Be Uncomfortable
In order to grow we have to get use to the idea of being uncomfortable, whether it’s from waking up at 5am on a cold wintery morning to get in a workout, fit in a study session before class or if it means getting out of your comfort zone and daring to ask for help once in a while. Jenn mentioned how she had to eventually step out of her comfort zone at one point and start hiring and trusting people to run certain aspects of her business which felt very attached to. Your area of growth could range from absolutely anything, but only you know what you need to overcome in your own situation in order to grow.
5. Be Empathetic and Gentle
Last but not least, “treat yourself like someone you care about,” a quote that was mentioned in an episode of Red Table Talk. This is so deep and true. Like I mentioned earlier, you are your most valuable asset, every single thing about you matters. Your selfcare and mental health should always be taken of. Learn to say no more often to others demands and stop guilt tripping yourself about it. If you don’t show yourself love and respect don’t expect someone else to love and respect you the way you expect when you can’t hold up to those expectations yourself.